Now, let's face it some people are emotionally healthy in their own ways, even in the ways that are deemed unhealthy by others. Whatever works for you, great! This article, though, cannot be more true, at least from my perspective. I'll tell you why I think what this articles speaks the truth, and then I'll add my own three additional bullet points. I'll also place them in a different order of priority than is presented in the article.
1. Stop Brooding: There is not point in sulking over what's happened, it will just reinforce the event that you're trying to move past. "Distract yourself with a task that requires concentration," whether that's something you consider a hobby, or as I go about it something that will change your life for the better and will lead you to a better position in life.
2. Fail Successfully: Absolutely. There are some of us that fail and lose the motivation to try again, almost demoralized, like the article mentions. Get over it quickly though. "Make a list of factors related to your unattained goal that are in your control," and then just tackle what you want to accomplish one step at a time. As a I heard a little while ago, "you may faulter, but you only fail when you abandon" whatever you're doing.
3. Find Meaning in Loss: I couldn't relate to this more. Haven't you lost something or someone in your life and it crashed your life into oblivion? Well the only way to thrive from loss is to find meaning in that loss, but also to look at "what you've gained as well will allow you to develop new appreciation for your life and the people in it."
4. Nurture Self-Esteem: This is possibly one of the most crucial habits you can build for yourself in life. This will declare your independence from any outside sources.
5. Revive Self-Worth: It almost goes hand-in-hand with the above. "Affirm the aspects of yourself you value, qualities you possess that you find meaningful." If you do not stand for something, you fall for everything. If you do not know what you stand for, it means you're sort of a lost soul. Affirm who you are. Do right by you!
6. Combat Loneliness: Pfff! This is much easier than you think. Just reach out to people. Surround yourself with people that make you a better person. Keep people in your life that reinforce what you're all about.
7. Absolve Yourself: Forgiveness is the best give you can give yourself. Then forgive others and put your best foot forward to remedy your actions and the relationships with others. Don't hold animosity towards others. Understand them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Acknowledge there's a human being behind your own actions and the actions of others. Show empathy and compassion towards yourself and towards others.
And now for my own three additions:
8. ACT rather than react: Reactions are just acknowledgements of other people's misactions and provocations. Do what you have to do. Do it with grace and move forward.
9. SMILE, keep your positivity, and bring SOLUTIONS rather than problems: There are enough people who will try to contaminate the environment with negativity and depressive tones. Set the example you want to see.
10. Lastly, Be Grateful! Don't forget to be thankful for that has happened to you. There is always an opportunity in every event, even the one that doesn't quite sit right with you. Even that experience has gotten you to a better place in life. Be grateful you've had the experience to learn, from your experiences, and from the people around you.
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