Monday, February 18, 2013

ARC ReView of THE NORMAL BAR: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal About Creating A New Normal in Your Relationship by Chrisanna Northrup

    NonFiction / Relationship -  272 pages
Crown Group Publishing (first published in 2013)

'Normal Bar' whatever that means.  Well, actually, the books says the Normal Bar "provides you with a compass and a toolbox so that you can get as close or as far away from normal as you see fit."  What are the tools in the toolbox, you ask?  They are: 1) Just You and I; 2) How Well do I know You?; 3) It takes two to tango; 4) Form a Book Club of Two; 5) Rules of the Game; 6) The Three-Prong Romance Test; 7) A Gift with a Twist; 8) Block Dating Tip; 9) Let's Bring Back the Make-Out Session!; 10) You Look Good; 11) Take My Hand or I'll Take Yours... That should give you some idea of the content....


First of all, what is normal?  I take issues with this first and foremost.  I hate that it's in the title, and I hated even more reading about how there is a normal area we should all be at, and as much as we deviate from it, we can come back to it.  I believe we all make our own normal. There is no one standard normal bar for everyone.

Secondly, the structure of the book is so atrocious. I couldn't handle it.  Too many 'tools.'  Like it's guide or something I should be noting down in a notebook and writing all the tools that I have at my disposal to reach the normal bar.  It is so rational and tactical.  And let me tell you, relationships are anything but that.  They're crazy, erratic, unexpected, and definitely organic.

I really didn't like this book.  It irked me in so many ways.  But that's just me.  I'm sure other people will like it.  I'm sure other people are looking for a book to guide them to reach a mid-point that is basic, that makes sense rationally, that they can have ultimate control over.

That's all I have to say about this book. 


I DON'T EVEN HAVE A RATING FOR THIS BOOK.  MY LOWEST RATING IS 'Excited but not Thrilled.'  I WASN'T EVEN EXCITED ABOUT THIS BOOK.  I WAS WAITING TO GET THROUGH IT TO PUT IT DOWN.


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